by Etecia Brown
When we have problems in our lives we tend to focus on that problem. We tend to observe our problems from the sidelines as spectators, 'why did this happen?', 'why did I do that?', 'why didn't I do that?', 'this is my fault'. We don't see the good in our lives and our problems seem to be what we love to talk about, even in our inner dialog. But we can't let feelings of self-doubt, or insecurity limit our potential to flourish. You can't sit back and sigh about life anymore. When you change your energy you will notice your entire life change in real time. I see your misery and discomfort. I see how you've withdrawn from the world leaving a trail so you know how to get back out there if you choose. Most of your misery is connected to you being so concerned about how people perceive you. Thus filters are created to masks are true selves via social media and we hide behind the persona. We become the persona, so much so that almost every decision in life is based on the approval of others. But your misery, your heartache..its because this approach to decision making is not in line with your higher self, your celestial being, the you in you. So, we must be accountable for our happiness. Not just our despair. When we make commitments its not only important to keep promises to others but to ourselves as well. "I'm going to be happy today." This affirmation is a commitment to yourself to actively find ways to increase your happiness level. "I love you"... this is a commitment not to the person you love but to yourself to engage in all the things you enjoy about that person because they are your reflection. Get to know a person, grow deeper in love with them/yourSELF and you enjoy it. In short, its all about you. Not them, not her, not him. Work to rewire your brain so that you create your own frame of reference and not let past experience define you. When you are committed to radical self-love, you are committing to showing up 100% in everything you do and say. Make time in your life to discover lasting truths not just truths for the moment so that you may go forth with integrity and purpose. You don't have to be perfect but be honest. Be patient with yourself. You are enough. Find that happy feeling, remember it, hold on to it, always let it guide you back.