by Etecia Brown
1. Knowledge of thyself
2. Love Your Creator (Womyn)
3. Pass it on
It's a good day to be Black and sexy. Today there are more black people in professional careers, pursuing higher education, purchasing homes, participating in government than any other time in American History. Seemingly, Black people have relatively lesser restrictions and more opportunities than their ancestors of recent pasts. With this it is detrimental that Black men and womyn take advantage of these fundamental freedoms in order to achieve greatness. This starts with knowledge of thyself. Do you know who you are? What makes you laugh out loud? What triggers you to be sad or angry? Whats your fondest memory? What do you wish you had forgotten? What do you love about yourself? Why do you feel unworthy of love? Self- reflection is how we as individuals become better, both mentally and spiritually. We must be self aware so that we may self-actualize. Moreover we must understand that we are the make up of the DNA of our ancestors, the trauma that our ancestors have gone through is passed down through our DNA. In the most basic way the patterns you see in your family have a good chance of continuing through your generation. Cycles repeat themselves. Thus it's also important to understand why you are the person you are. Perhaps why your parents are the persons they are. What was your great grandfather's name? Where did he come from? Family history is important because it shapes our basic identity. It also helps us to understand patterns. From here we must reflect on our cultural identity. Who we are as a people. What are some of the holistic healing practices some of our people practiced? What spiritual traditions did we have? What great things have we written, painted, built, inspired? We must understand this too because we share common blood. We share common power. If we understand both our family history and cultural history we will began to understand that we are united. Then we will be able to believe in our own individual power to effect change, and eliminate self-doubt.
When we are whole perfect and complete in our own self-healing, self-actualization, self-efficacy. Then, it is important to love. Love our creators. Black womyn and Black men are the least likely to marry. Black womyn are the most demographic in poverty with the absence of husbands, their children are the most likely to stay in poverty. Black womyn and men are also the most likely to talk negatively about one another in a general since of "I cant stand niggas" "I don't date Black women because they are all [xyz]". Again, if we understand our history then we understand where this hate towards each other comes from, "divide and conquer" one of the greatest tools of the master. We must first heal internally so that we can come together and embrace each other in a way that is uplifting, supportive, deep, and earth shattering. Black men and womyn must learn to love each other in a way that is not combative, controlling, materialistic, and empty. We can not continue to be broken by a system that we weren't meant to survive in. We must build bridges and close gaps in the dawn of our civilization. If we can not love each other how do we expect others to have compassion towards us? Time is of the essence, 30 is not the new 20. Don't let society rob you of your ambition. Your hunger for success, prominence, love. The more time you spend putting off your self-healing, the further you are from being equip, or finding a partner who is equip to build a foundation with, and the more you are playing "catch up" in your mid-late 30s and sometimes early 40s. Love is essential to the functioning of a peaceful society. When we make love in our homes, our children model that love in their daily lives and grow up to be compassionate loving citizens of humanity.
We must pass knowledge on not only to our children but to our communities. History, tradition, health practices, financial management tools and techniques, etc. After building a steady foundation in the home we have collected the resources necessary to be able to support our community to maximize their potential to flourish. Knowledge and wealth equals power. The sum is only as good as its parts. As long as communities continue to suffer in poverty then we as a people can not go on to build dynasties and legacies as those did during the time of the Berbers, Nguni people, Nubians, and people of Kemet. It's time to be real, let's heal, let's love, let's build together.